Understanding Traumatic Behavior can become complicated at times we see our children’s behaviors as just being terrible 2 or terrible 6 or preteen 11 or teenage 15 and at times we overlook the things that they are affected by in their environments or traumatic things they experience in life that sets them up for the behaviors we all cant ignore.
What is your child really trying to tell you?
When our children cry or talk back or have a tantrum what they really are trying to say is they are lacking some emotional support from you and they don’t really know how to express themselves without anger or outbursts.
The traumatic behavior that I am referring to is more related to serious trauma Neglect, Abuse( Physical and Mental), this type of trauma usually is more permanent and the behaviors are more extreme. They can include inability to self soothe, anger and rage, anger outbursts over small things, self harm, uncontrollable screaming crying, aggression towards adults.
How do we help children, and teens with traumatic behaviors?
It is best to seek professional help a trauma therapist will be a good fit ti help the child work through it at their own pace. They are especially equip to handle the situations that arise from the therapy sessions. You may not see results right away but you will definitely see some improvement overtime. They can also point you in the direction to additional help if things spiral out of control. Consistency is key for traumatic behaviors as it is needed to help them through the process.
Where do I go for Help?
- If you are in danger or behaviors are too much to handle contact the access and crisis line if its a mental health emergency and you need immediate help.
- Contact your pediatrician
- Contact a Mental Health Provider such as a Therapist or Psychiatrist
- Join a support group do not try to deal with it alone it can be stressful and overwhelming for any parent